Divorce can be a knee-jerk reaction for some couples. Instead of choosing
to work through some of the more common issues and concerns, they opt
to resolve matters through divorce. With nearly half of all marriages
ending in divorce, it can be easy to call it quits when the going gets
rough instead of making the marriage work.
Are you ready for a divorce?
There are some questions you can ask yourself before contacting a divorce
lawyer to end your marriage. Answering these questions can help you decide
whether or not you and your spouse are truly ready for divorce.
Have you and your partner explored options besides divorce to save the marriage? Reading self-help books, going to a marriage counselor, contacting a clergy
member, and examining your individual role in the breakdown are some of
the ways to address this.
Have you planned for a divorce? Going into a divorce blindly means that you do not understand child support
and custody, alimony, and property division. Not knowing the details about
this can be a huge mistake and leave you unprepared to protect yourself.
Before filing for divorce, consult with attorneys and figure out what
you need to know first.
Is there unfinished emotional business? Deciding to divorce over hurt feelings instead of when you are calm and
at peace with your decision can cause the divorce to be tenser than it
needs to be. When you are at peace with your decision, you and your spouse
can easily move forward.
Can you co-parent with your spouse? When children are involved, each person will remain in their children's
lives, meaning they will need to stay in contact with one another. Being
amicable with your former spouse must be accomplished for the sake of
the children. If it cannot be done, then perhaps there is some unfinished
emotional business to attend to.
Are you able to handle a new relationship with your children? Divorce means different custody and visitation concerns that may mean
children will spend less time with you than you'd like. Children also
should not hear the details of the divorce. If you cannot come to terms
with this new relationship, then consider why you are getting the divorce
to begin with.
Divorce is not to be taken lightly, and preparing yourself early on can
ensure the best possible outcome for all involved. An experienced divorce
attorney can work directly with you to address your needs and concerns
during this difficult time.